Now personally, I don't believe in fate. I don't think that everything happens for a predetermined reason and/or that god is responsible for everything. I guess it would be easy to blame god for all the inequities and injustice in life. But I guess that's why Satan was conjured up in a cunning attempt to salvage a coexistence of religion and humanity.

Perhaps relationships are not fated, or impending relationships for that matter. If you were to ask someone out and upon being rejected, decided to forget the situation and break all contact off with said person, you could just hold god responsible for your fate and agree that it was never possible anyways. The idea being that you didn't have enough control over your own decision such that to render your fate changable. But what if you refused to take "no" for an answer. What if you convinced that person to change her mind and go out with you, leading to a hypothetical, long-term and happy relationship? It's quite interesting how many people make mistakes that they inevitably regret. Perhaps in rejection you find success. Isn't that what people want to believe? that the life that awaits them is not predicated on their own actions, but the actions of a higher being? that when they fail, it will help them out more in the long-run because god intended it to be that way? But what if it's not? what if everything is predicated on your own intentions and actions and that you are surely in full control of the little things in life that could one day proliferate into something much bigger?

Some things are certainly fated; some things can't be controlled, but a lot of things can be. Perhaps changing your fate, by yourself, determines exactly what your life is supposed to be about. Perhaps the excuse that, "god wanted it that way" doesn't quite apply to all situations whether or not you believe in him. Decisions like these don't come easy and don't reflect well during dire straits. I guess sometimes when one reflects the poor decisions he/she has made over the past, they reflect on the alternative hypotheticals that could have been. It makes failure much more acceptable and continuation far more probable.

I'd like to think that we control a lot of what comes about in our lives, and that makes hope more realistic. Perhaps having rejected someone or having broken up with them doesn't impede progress but sustains it. Perhaps knowing that you can control your decisions and that things just don't happen because they are meant to be that way. It's an easy way to cop out for your own mistakes and I guess that's because people like feeling sorry for themselves. It's a simple solution to a complex situation. It's easy to regret results and shun everyone away in hopes of eradicating the problem at hand. Everyone is guilty of this, but that's nature's way of giving us the middle-finger salute.

Take a moment to reflect before dismissing something important. Opportunities don't come by everyday and not everyone is entitled to a second chance. That's where the intangibles come into play. You can control only so much, but it's that particular moment in time when everything just comes together that you can only hope for. You can neither create it nor control it, and perhaps that is the fated result that we accept by the grace of God (not me, though). There are far too many anomalies to account for in life and I don't think it's wise to dwell on a higher being for help. Sometimes shit just goes wrong, and it may or may not be fate dictating any of it. Eitherways, everyone controls a lot more than they believe they do. Though in the end, you either luck out or strike out, and that's the story of life.